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Sunday, December 18, 2011

Father and Daughter Connection

I was in my early 20's when I read an article on Father-Daughter connection that made me shiver in tears. It was an article that spoke so deep in my soul. It made me understand a lot of things about myself but at the same time it made me so mad at my dad for not fulfilling his role as a father to me. That article opened my eyes but didn't heal me. It was an article that was not founded on the Word of God. Everything about it was true but it had no power to heal and deliver.

Today, 20 years after I read that article, I want to share with you my own version of the Father-Daughter connection based from what I've experienced, the process I've gone through, and what I am still going through. This version is also founded on the Word of God, making it more stable and reliable.

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I encourage you also to share this with your fathers, husbands, brothers, and every man you know.

It was around 3 in the morning and I was still up doing my schoolwork. I got thirsty and decided to walk to the kitchen. My dad was packing his suitcase as he was leaving for Europe. He didn't know I was still awake. As I walked through the hallway, I saw my Dad walking towards my direction. He was surprised to see me still awake and I don't know for what reason... maybe he was saying goodbye to me or maybe I just caught him by surprise... but he hugged me. I hugged him back and when I realized we were hugging, I immediately let go and walked away. I went back to my room and started crying. It was tears of joy and sadness at the same time. I ached in my heart wanting more of my dad's hug but at the same time wondering why he never hugged me until that time. I hated the uncomfortable feeling I had from that hug. It was almost too good to be true.

My dad has always been very loving to my mom and sister but not to me. I've always known that he loves me. I am his first girl... his first child for that matter. I am almost a replica of him. Amongst all of his five children, I am the one who got most of his good genes. My passion for writing, speaking, and teaching, are all traces of my dad in me. Even his friends used to tell me, "You are really your father's girl". Yet, there was something about my dad that made him so uncomfortable expressing his love to me. As a result, I grew up so hungry for his love. This hunger for love led me to compromising situations with men.

A father is the first man in every girl's life. Her relationship with him determines the kind of relationships she will have in the future. Everything she sees in her father is an example that he sets for her. If he is loving and nice to her mom, then the daughter grows up believing that this is the way her future husband should be to her.

The love that I witnessed between my dad and mom made me desire for a marriage like theirs as early as my childhood years. However, my hunger for my dad's love screwed up everything. It distorted my entire concept of love. Since I wanted love and attention so bad, I thought that every guy who told me he loved me was sincere. Little did I know that it was only their way of getting what they wanted from me. I will never forget that night when I was sexually molested by a guy friend who my parents trusted. I was 12 years old and I was just so nave and trusting. I remember asking him, "Do you love me?", and he said, "I love my dad, mom, and brothers". All I wanted to hear from him was that he loved me and that would have made me understood why he did what he did to me.

That incident worsened my already "starting to get distorted" concept of love. It also opened doors for more promiscuity and of course inflicted more wounds upon me. Years later, when the wounds were already so deep, I realized that had my dad established a loving relationship with me, none of that would have happened. I then built up more resentment against him.

Every father should be his daughter's first date. He should show her how to be treated with respect. He should explain to her how valuable she is and that she has to be valued by every man who wants to even be near her. This can only be possible if the father has built a loving relationship with his daughter. A father can't just walk into this daughter's life after years of not even being close to her. The relationship has to start from infancy, or at least, the formative years.

Whether you are a father, a daughter, or a mother, I know that this article is speaking to you right now. Perhaps as a father you're thinking, 'but what can I do? I've never built a relationship with my daughter". Or as a daughter, you're saying, "It's too late, my dad has never been there for me". Or as a mother, you're thinking, "I screwed up. My daughter doesn't even know who her dad is".

Let me tell you something. Our earthly fathers may have failed us. You as an earthly father may have failed your daughter(s). Yet, there is a FATHER in heaven who said that He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). He loves us and only wants the best for us. He said, For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.

Our FATHER in heaven is our great Healer and Restorer. He will give us back what the devil has stolen from us.

Do you realize that the devil is responsible for our hurts towards our dads? He wants to break our relationships with our dads so that our entire concept of a father will be distorted... simply because he wants to destroy our relationship with our Father in heaven.

It took a while before I was able to relate to God, my Father. I never had a problem relating with Jesus as my brother... but as a Father, it was not easy. However, as I got to know Him more, through His Word, I started drawing closer and closer to Him. This closeness to my real Father is the reason why I was healed from my hurts and resentment towards my earthly father.

If you are a father, the only way you can even be the dad that God wants you to be is through JESUS. It is also through Him that you can restore your broken relationship with your daughter. If you are a single mom, the only way you can help your daughter have the real Father figure is through JESUS. And if you are a daughter, the only way you can experience the love of a Father is through JESUS.

Below is a poem I wrote for my dad in 2007. It surely shows how much God has healed me.

My Love For You

I have always craved for your attention,
"Dad" was the name I loved to mention;
I have always ached for your love,
You were the one that stood high above.

Even as a child, I have always admired you,
Being with you was something I looked forward to;
My eyes looked at you with so much pride,
Your words and ways became my guide.

One incident that I will always remember,
Was our constant trip to the chapel together;
It became a daily routine for me,
Opening my eyes, making me see.

As I transformed from a girl into a young woman,
My heart never left you dad, my first man;
Though I was rebellious in my ways,
I always looked back at those good old days.

When I got older and had the chance to work with you,
My respect and esteem for you grew;
I saw a side of you I've never known,
And all the more to you I was drawn.

While I was going through the pain of a failed marriage,
It was your love for mom that gave me the courage;
You became the role model that I wanted to follow,
Anything outside of that, I just couldn't swallow.

All these years I have wanted to be close to you,
And express to you all these feelings that are long overdue;
But the walls between us have grown in width and height,
Blocking and stopping me with all its might.

Finally, our God came to the rescue.
He fixed, repaired, restored, and made new.
No wall was too high or wide for Him,
Nothing was difficult as it seemed.

It was the love of Jesus that connected us.
It was His love that made healing come to pass.
It was His love that broke all walls.
It was His love that pacified our souls.

As a proof of this great love of God,
A special gift on my birthday I've had;
You, dad, said the words "I love you" to me,
It was the best present there could ever be.

I want you to know how much I love you,
And how this love is more real now than it used to;
My long search is finally over,
In my heart you will reign forever.

Father and Daughter Connection

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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

The Celebrity Charity connection

In the past, contributions from the very rich to the poor were most often made anonymously. Many of the direct recipients of charity did not even know the identity of their benefactors. Today all this has changed.

However, there is no doubt that endorsement of various charities by customary film stars, musicians and sports personalities, coupled with the celebrities' own actual high-profile donations, can vastly increase social awareness of some indisputably worthy causes.

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Underprivileged children, homeless refugees, victims of natural disasters and sufferers from diseases such as Aids are among the unfortunate habitancy who have been hugely helped " not only by generous donations from wealthy personalities, but also thanks to contributions made by commonplace donors who have been deeply moved by the charitable activities of social figures they admire.

Caring Stars

One customary celebrity philanthropist is actress Angelina Jolie, who uses her fame and fortune to raise awareness of the plight some 20 million refugees in 120 countries nearby the world. Her work on behalf of refugees began in 2001 when she was filming in Cambodia, where she decided to adopt a refugee child. By adopting orphaned children " her son Maddox from Cambodia, and a daughter Zahara from Ethiopia in 2005 " Jolie has also sparked interest among other prospective parents to help or adopt other needy children nearby the world.

Named a Goodwill Ambassador for the United Nations Commission for Refugees in 2001, Jolie has toured many other refugee locations including Thailand, Pakistan, Sierra Leone, Namibia, Tanzania, Kenya, the Balkans and Ecuador. Also pledging and donating some million dollars to separate charitable causes, she also champions the cause of banning land mines.

Film actor and producer George Clooney is another fervent supporter of requisite causes. These consist of the 'One Campaign' to eliminate Aids; and 'Make Poverty History', part of an 84-nation coalition calling for a breakthrough against poverty throughout the world. He is also involved in the Global Campaign Against Poverty (Gcap), which aims to narrow the gap in the middle of rich and poor by addressing artificial factors such as unjust global trade systems, debt burdens that suffocate any occasion of a country's economic salvage and ineffective aid in impoverished areas of the world.

Together with Samuel L Jackson, Clooney co-sponsors 'Rock for Darfur', a series of charity concerts organised by MySpace.com and Oxfam. The funds go to retain Oxfam's disaster relief work and to aid refugees in Sudan and neighbouring Chad. Finally, there is 'United Way' " Clooney's own self-supported programme which collects money and goods from various donors and distributes the proceeds to local charities.

Jackie Chan is Hong Kong's most noted film star. In 1988, he founded the Jackie Chan Charitable Foundation to offer scholarships and active assistance to young habitancy in Hong Kong. The foundation's motto is: 'To help, to heal and to excel.' As Jackie explains: "Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person's life. Long ago, when I was a child in need of assistance, someone was kind to me. My charitable foundation is my way of passing on that kindness. By providing scholarships, grants and funding ... I am helping to make the world a better place."

Chan's charitable donations cover a wide spectrum that includes home care for youngsters at risk; help for unemployed youngsters; expert self-empowerment counselling; training camps for students; and anti-suicide campaigns. Over the years, the foundation's activities have grown substantially, broadening their scope to consist of healing services and help for victims of natural disasters or habitancy suffering from serious illnesses.

Environmental Warrior

Popularly described as a 'Hollywood heartthrob', adolescent movie star Leonardo DiCaprio is a passionate defender of the environment. To nurture greater awareness of environmental issues, he actively cooperates with organisations such as Global Green Usa, the Natural Resources Defense Council, the International Fund for Animal Welfare and National Geographic Kids.

His own Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation focusses particularly on global warming, which can be combated by reducing greenhouse gas emissions and adopting alternative and renewable power sources. "I urge individuals nearby the globe to stand up," he declares, "and ask local leaders, if they haven't already, to pledge to buy cleaner cars, build green facilities, and buy green power like wind or solar energy. Our actions may resolve if we become a casualty in the war for a habitable planet for generations to come." His concerns also expand to maintaining clean water supplies throughout the world (DiCaprio estimates that 1.2 billion of the world's habitancy do not have access to safe drinking water) " and he is a fervent advocate of preserving the earth's biodiversity.

Philanthropic Sportsmen

In 1994, at the height of his sporting career, tennis champion Andre Agassi set up the Andre Agassi Charitable Foundation (Aacf) to supply recreational facilities and educational opportunities for children in southern Nevada, Usa, especially in the Las Vegas area. It has supported more than 20 organisations and raised more than Us million since it was launched. Its special mission is to help abused or abandoned children who are determined 'at risk' or deprived of basic opportunities in life. In order to nurture character and self-esteem in these children and improve their work possibilities, the Foundation funds a blend of emotional, corporeal and scholastic programmes.

The Andre Agassi Boys & Girls Club, opened in 1997, features a basketball court, tennis courts, a computer lab, a library and a teen centre offering a collection of activities. Through the tennis Team Agassi and the basketball programme Agassi Stars, children learn the values of good sportsmanship. They also attend study sessions. By balancing athletics and education, the Agassi Club provides not only a safe place for youngsters to go after school, but a certain learning environment. In 2001, the Foundation donated an added Us0,000 towards construction an Andre Agassi bungalow for Medically fragile Children.

Also committed to children's welfare is seven-time Grand Slam tennis champion Roger Federer. In 2003 he launched the Roger Federer Foundation in Basel, Switzerland to fund projects for disadvantaged children, especially in South Africa. Following the devastating 2004 tsunami, he instigated some other fund-raising initiatives, including the Atp All-Star Rally for Relief. This led to a global partnership with Unicef, and in April 2006, Federer was appointed a Unicef 'Goodwill Ambassador.' Unicef administrative Director Ann M Veneman voiced her reliance in his quality to make a contrast when she said: "Roger Federer will bring breathtaking power and talent to working with Unicef to improve the lives of children throughout the world."

Federer believes sport can help overcome injustice and build bridges in the middle of cultures. "As tennis players, we have a unique opportunity," he says. "We are given a occasion to visit so many separate countries and cultures and interact with habitancy from all walks of life. It is our responsibility to...use our fortune to make a contrast in the lives of those who most need it. If I can make a offering to this, I am more than happy to do so."

Fulfilling Dreams

As a child, Tiger Woods dreamed about becoming the world's best golfer. "I worked hard," he says, "and applied my family's values to all I did. Integrity, honesty, discipline, responsibility and fun " I learned these values at home and in school, each one pushing me added toward my dream." Knowing that thousands of other children dream about their futures too, Tiger and his father set up the Tiger Woods Foundation in 1996. "Through personal enrichment programmes, scholarships, direct grants, junior golf teams, and the new Tiger Woods learning town completed in 2005," explains Tiger, "the foundation is helping millions of children reach their dreams."

The Tiger Woods Foundation makes direct society investments Through its grant and scholarship programmes. In 2005 it awarded nearly Us million in grants to youth-related programmes, and gave the Baton Rouge Area Foundation 0,000 to set up a Hurricane Katrina educational fund. The Foundation also donated 0,000 to Give2Asia to aid children displaced by the 2004 tsunami. The expert Golfers connection of America (Pga) Tour contributed a matching amount of 0,000. another customary Pga champion golfer, Phil Mickelson, was the catalyst behind a charity designed to benefit America's military men and women. Called 'Birdies for the Brave', it is sponsored by the Phil and Amy Mickelson Charitable Gift Fund. Amounts of Us0 for each 'birdie' and 0 for every 'eagle' that Phil makes are donated to help military families by financing education for the children of deceased military personnel, or retain handicap-accessible homes for severely-injured or disabled American veterans. In partnership with Exxon Mobil, the Mickelsons also co-sponsor a five-day 'academy' for mid-primary level teachers to improve their skills in motivating children and teaching mathematics and science.

Scoring for Families

Basketball superstar Michael Jordan's record-breaking achievements on the basketball court may have ended with his withdrawal in 1999, but his charitable work continues to benefit organisations he helped establish. In 1996, at the height of his athletic career, his Us million offering helped finance the occasion in Chicago of the James R. Jordan Boys & Girls Club and family Life Centre (named after Michael's father). The club offers children's recreational and learning facilities, baby day care and a family healthcare centre.

In the same year, he committed million to the University of North Carolina to set up its Jordan build for Families. At its dedication ceremony, he explained, "I feel very blessed and fortunate to have had a family structure which nurtured and in case,granted a certain influence for myself and my siblings. Many young habitancy today are overwhelmed by the pressures of life, struggling and trying to survive. I am supporting the Jordan build for Families because I believe that all that can be done should be done to retain the family and to improve the quality of life for all individuals, especially children and the elderly." Jordan remains involved with the Boys & Girls Club of America, Uncf/College Fund, special Olympics and a collection of other organisations supporting children and families. British football icon David Beckham and his popstar wife Victoria established their own charitable trust in 2002, and more recently joined military with Unicef to raise funds for children worldwide. In January 2005, Beckham was appointed a Unicef 'Goodwill Ambassador' with a singular focus on the Unicef's 'Sports for Development' programme. Sport is seen as a certain force to improve the lives of children throughout the world, particularly those who have been affected by disease, poverty or conflict.

Beckham's first performance as a Unicef ambassador was to embark on a global petition on behalf of the 1.5 million children who were victims of the 2004 tsunami, supporting the organisation's humanitarian work in the region. He's appeared in a series of films to raise awareness of those children who are being forgotten in the fight against Aids. Through Unicef's 'Unite for Children, Unite against Aids' campaign, contributions go towards helping millions of children. Proceeds of a World Cup Party hosted by the Beckhams in May this year generated funds that will enable Unicef to reach many more children nearby the world. David and Victoria have also contributed to Children Today, a London-based charity for disabled children.

Fighting Poverty and Malaria

Irish pop star Bono (real name, Paul Hewson) has been deeply involved with social and political causes since the 1980s. The U2 star's involvement with the Bob Geldof's Band Aid and Live Aid charity projects secured his place as a worldwide legend. From 1999, he has increasingly dedicated himself to relieving third-world debt and raising awareness of the plight of Africa.

Since the end of his 'Elevation' tour in 2001, Bono has been actively campaigning for debt-relief in Africa and has visited many African countries. In 2002, he set up an organisation called 'Data', to raise awareness of Debt, Aids and Trade problems in Africa. At present, he is particularly involved about the qoute of eradicating of malaria, which is the biggest killer on the African continent. Bono has been quoted as saying that the idea of defeating malaria in Africa would be as animated as having witnessed Neil Armstrong's first walk on the moon. In 2003, 2005 and 2006, Bono was a nominee for the Nobel Peace Prize.

In 1984, Bob Geldof organised Band Aid to benefit children dying of starvation in Africa. He assembled Britain's top group of singers and musicians to article the single, 'Do They Know It's Christmas', which became the fastest-selling singular article in Uk music history, raising over 8 million pound worldwide for aid in Ethiopia. In 1985, Geldof went on to organise two Live Aid concerts, one in London and the other in Philadelphia, featuring more than 60 of rock music's biggest stars performing 'live'. Over 100 million pound was raised for African famine relief.

In January 2004, Geldof visited friends in Ethiopia, where he discovered that more habitancy were at risk of starvation then than while the famines of the 1980's which inspired Live Aid. Geldof communicated his concern vociferously to British Prime clergyman Tony Blair. The succeed was the establishment of a Commission for Africa, comprised of 16 African political leaders and others. Relief measures proposed included the doubling of aid, cancelling debt and reforming trade rules. Following the Commission's 2005 report, Gelfdof decided to stage eight simultaneous concerts nearby the world to exert pressure on the so-called rich nations' club: the G8. The event was entitled Live 8.

Combating Aids

British singer, composer and pianist, Sir Elton John, is customary for his retain for Aids charities. As long ago as 1986, he was contributing profits from his recordings to the American Foundation for Aids explore and encouraging his fans to do the same. Since then, he has worked diligently to nurture greater awareness of the disease among the normal public.

In 1992 he set up the Elton John Aids Foundation (Ejaf) as a charity to fund exact programmes for Hiv/Aids arresting and to retain Aids victims. This non-profit foundation is dedicated to the elimination of discrimination and prejudice against habitancy affected by Hiv/Aids; it also provides specialised services to Aids victims, and preventive education programmes to habitancy at risk of contracting the disease. Since its founding, Ejaf has raised over Us0 million to retain Aids-related programmes in 55 countries nearby the world.

The foundation's work is supported not only by John's own contributions, but Through numerous fund-raising events, sports programmes, art and photographic exhibitions, Oscar parties and gala dinners organised or co-sponsored by John, sometimes with auctions of his own and other stars' personal items. Last year, Ejaf introduced new initiatives aimed at Hiv arresting among residents of the southern United States and the Caribbean, young habitancy and drug users and habitancy recently released from prison.

In Tune With Children

In the 1980s, pop idol Madonna became a supporter of the charity called amFar, the American Foundation for Aids Research. Since then, she has also turned her attentiveness to Children in Need " a charity that provides practical and continuing retain to thousands of youngsters 18 years old or younger who may have experienced neglect, abuse, homelessness or poverty, and may be suffering from serious illnesses, disabilities, psychological disorders or addictions. The Make-a-Wish Foundation, which grants the wishes of children suffering from life-threatening healing conditions, is another of Madonna's favoured causes.

Malawi, one of the poorest countries in the world, is suffering from famine, drought, poverty and diseases such as Hiv/Aids, malaria, tuberculosis and hepatitis. Most recently, Madonna has contributed generously to Raising Malawi, a charity whose Orphan Care Initiative provides food, healing care, clothing, clean drinking water and education to 32,000 orphaned children in the impoverished African nation. Madonna recently demonstrated the extent of her dedication to this charitable cause by adopting a Malawian child.

In 1999, the American singer Mariah Carey received a Congressional Award for her contributions to youth charities and non-profit organisations. She was recognised for her work with the administration for Children's Services in New York City, and she participates in Children's Services' programmes to ensure that children are raised in a stable family environment. One Carey offering of over Us,000,000 went to the children's Fresh Air Fund, which enables city children to enjoy summer camping in the countryside.

Camp Mariah is a work Awareness Camp for New York adolescents operated under the auspices of the Fresh Air Fund that aims to develop their awareness of educational and work options. It offers a unique occasion for nearly 300 boys and girls aged 12 to 14 to engage in an educational curriculum while enjoying camp adventures. Oppressive three-and-a-half-week summer sessions and weekend camping trips are complemented by year-round activities in New York City. Camp Mariah was named after Mariah Carey for her generous retain and dedication to Fresh Air children.

The Celebrity Charity connection

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